Thursday, May 29, 2014

We are free

Sometimes we confuse our dreams with reality because a dream starts in the middle, there is no clear beginning or end. You don't have to build up courage to talk to that one person because you have already started your sentence. You don't have to wait until something great happens because it's happening right then. And when that great thing does happen it can last forever. You can wake up, forget the whole thing, and then fall back asleep and start it all over again. In reality we question things and are hesitant, but in dreams we can do anything we've ever wanted and everything we never knew we wanted. In dreams we are free. 

Wednesday, May 21, 2014

Uhhh I have to brush my hair...

Why is it that we feel a need to explain ourselves when we can't do something? Or even worse feel the need to make an excuse when we don't want to do something? When someone asks me to hang out I can think of 78 different excuses for why I can't instead of just simply saying no thanks. I'd feel like an ass if I straight up said no but that shouldn't be the case. We should be able to politely (because being rude is still being rude) say we don't want to, when we don't want to or when we just don't feel like it. This is just another one of those weird indoctrinated ideas in our heads. And I just want to know why, it seems so stupid. Maybe it's selfish of me but if I don't want to do something I shouldn't have to explain myself. I also shouldn't feel like I have to do something I have no interest in doing just to keep myself from seeming like a bitch. Because honestly how pissed at yourself would you be if you died doing something you didn't want to be doing in the first place. I would haunt myself if it were possible. I don't know though just some random thoughts.. If someone knows the answer of why we think this I'd love to know. Or maybe it's just me that feels this way? I'm not sure but I'd like to know either way.

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Cock block the vote

Since it's Election Day I figured I'd talk about my views on voting which basically is I refuse to. I'm registered to vote and I did vote in the 2012 election. The reason I will no longer vote is because I don't know what I'm voting for and frankly I don't care to. And you may think it's ignorant of me but hear me out. I voted for Obama mainly because he was black and I was like cool but also because I agreed with most of his policies and what not. But then there are those other officials that I just voted for because I liked their name or they were a chick or whatever. I had no clue what or who I was potentially electing. Which is complete bullshit.

Everyone tells teens to vote because every vote counts and blah blah blah but teens have no idea what they're voting for. Shit half the country doesn't know what they're voting for. And you could say well oh it's their duty as an American citizen to keep track of politics so they actually vote for someone they agree with. But I don't think that would make a damn difference. Some kids also just vote for whoever their parents or families vote for which is another issue I have in and of itself. I have my own mind and can make my own decisions. My grandpop was in city council, he has strong views on politics, but that doesn't mean I share the same views.

But the reason I don't think it'd make a difference is because look at Obama. Our first black president which I think is awesome but what isn't awesome is the fact that people voted for him solely based on his race. That's not okay clearly because our country is still a shithole. Our national deficit dropped 37% in 2013. The whole issue with Obamacare and the website glitches. How come a government website crashes because an overload of people trying to get on it but porn sites are just fine? I don't get that but whatever. I could google the rest of the issues with the country but I don't feel like it. You know the problems. 

A while back I watched an interview of Russell Brand telling his views on voting and government. I actually ended up using for a philosophy presentation. One thing he said was,

“I have never voted. Like most people I am utterly disenchanted by politics. Like most people I regard politicians as frauds and liars and the current political system as nothing more than a bureaucratic means for furthering the augmentation and advantages of economic elites.” 

I completely agree. The political system isn't helping anyone but themselves. They're helping big business... Everyone that doesn't need/ shouldn't be getting help. Why the fuck are we okay with 1% of the US taking in nearly a quarter of the nations income each year??? We look at impoverished countries and feel so sad yet there is plenty poverty in America. It's not that I'm not voting out of apathy, it's that I don't find this system effective. I refuse to vote until I see a change in the way things are run. Until people wake the fuck up.

I don't know how to fix the government but what I do know is 

1. Stop ruining the planet
2. Stop pretending some lives are more important than others
3. Stop exploiting the underclass
4. Stop electing based on wealth
5. START SERVING THE NEEDS OF THE PEOPLE... ALL OF THE PEOPLE

I realize this is very controversial and most people don't agree with me but that is part of the problem. We are okay with this shitty political system because we have faith in the shitty people running it. They tell us we need to learn about history so that history doesn't repeat itself right? But is that not what is happening? The government has some highs but lets be real, mostly lows, yet we continue to blindly follow their rules because what else are we supposed to do. How about take a stand and make the change. As Russell Brand says, don't wait to be given the right, take it.



Monday, May 12, 2014

Rape culture is the best culture

Rape culture yay! Such a fun and ultimately frustrating thing to talk about. This kind of goes along with my double standards post. The fact that girls can't do what boy's do. (That can go the other way around which I don't think I mentioned but I think I'm a girl so I guess I'm bias) Why is it that I grew up thinking I was "asking for it" if I wore a short skirt or showed my midriff? Why does my dad tell me "it's different for a girl" every single fucking time I go out?

Because hellllllooo The only reason it's different for a girl is because people keep saying it's different for a girl. You can't get too drunk because you're a girl and you could get raped. That's the reason. Does no one realize what you're telling girls? You're telling girls they can't have fun the way guys do because guys will take advantage of them. You know what would be better to do???? Teach boys that its not fucking okay to sexually assault girls. We all think and believe this but who is reiterating it in little boys heads? No one. Instead we are telling girls they can't do things that boys can do because boys can't handle themselves. Which only makes boys think it's okay for them to do it. Because if the girl wasn't asking for it she wouldn't be drunk in a tight dress at a bar right??? ndvcmeahwi;j;afjn aj;fj alf Literally that's how I feel about this because I can't comprehend it.

You're teaching little girls that it's their fault if a guy forces them into any type of sexual situation because of what they are wearing or what they were doing. If they were wearing a short skirt or were drunk obviously it's their fault it happened. People seriously put that into consideration like it's an okay way to think. Why in the fucking world is it seen even a little bit okay for a girl to be harmed because of something she was doing "wrong"? When men are put on trial after rapping a women and it is found out that the girl was on drugs or the girl was a prostitute it can hurt the case and the guy can literally get away with it. I don't care if the women is a stripper or a hooker, I don't care if the women was drunk or high, I don't care if the women was walking around in nipple tassels and a thong, RAPE IS NEVER OKAY.

School's have dress codes for girls saying they can't show too much of their shoulder or too much leg and god forbid they ever show their stomach. You're telling little girls that if they show their bodies, boys will be distracted and not be able to pay attention. You are shaming girls because of the body they were born with. Why are boy's allowed to show their bodies when girl's are not?? No one ever stops and thinks oh maybe a girl will be distracted by a guys abs so he shouldn't be able to take his shirt off. No one thinks like this. But guess what!! Girls get just as distracted by guys bodies as guys do with girls. That's kind of the thing with genders. You're intrigued by a body that is different than yours. And the only reason you're intrigued is because it's made out to be like a big secret. You don't even find out there's a difference between male and female bodies until you're what 5 or 6 give or take. It's like a big surprise showing up to your first health class and seeing a penis for the first time. When and why did our bodies become so private and hidden?

Men are allowed to walk around with their shirt off and it's completely normal. But women's boobs are sexualized and because they are sexualized they have to be covered at all times. Penises and vaginas are allowed to be sexualized obviously because they are sex organs. Without them there wouldn't be sex which means there wouldn't be sexualization and there also wouldn't be any humans so yeah they can be sexualized (that doesn't mean I think you should have to hide them though) But boobs have nothing to do with that. The sole purpose of boobs are to feed the boy that will grow up and disrespect girls because of their boobs. Women help populate the Earth so I'm really not sure where men's superiority comes from. It takes both genders to create a human being right? So why should one ever be considered "better" or "dominant" or "in charge"? Why should one be able to show more of their body than the other? They should be seen equally because they are both equally important.

And now girl's aren't the only victim of rape culture either. It is possible for a man to be raped, believe it or not. But society refuses to believe it, so men won't report or admit it. It's not okay for a guy to take advantage of a girl and it's not okay for a girl to take advantage of a guy. When I think about it, it's not okay for a guy to take advantage of a guy or a girl to take advantage of a girl either. Basically just don't take advantage of anyone okay?? Guys are always made out to be sexual predators, but sometime's it is the other way around. And sometime's they aren't sexual predators at all, would you look at that. It is so easy for a girl to make up that she was assaulted and the man could/would be found guilty. I do see it the other way around which most people don't even realize. That's why we have to stop seeing guys as predators and girls as victims. That's why we need to ease off gender roles. We are slightly different and in some respect there's no way around it. But if we never had these strict rules of this is okay to do if you are a boy and this is acceptable to do if you are a girl, none of this would be a problem. It would be okay for everyone to do everything that's okay to do and acceptable for everyone to do everything that's acceptable to do. Rape culture wouldn't exist.

Sunday, May 11, 2014

Double standards and bullshit

I guess I just have a lot on my mind today and have a lot to say... I'm going to be really honest right now. I HATE being a girl. But I also don't want to be a boy either. I hate the gender stereotypes and the fact that most of them are true. I hate the double standards most of all. The fact that a guy can do something, but a girl can't. Why is it that when a girl hooks up with a lot of guys, she's slut shamed, but when a guy does it, he's praised? Does no one see how fucked up that is?

If it is "bad" for girls to hook up with a lot of guys, it should be the same the other way around. Or maybe we could just realize it's not "bad" for anyone to hook up with anyone. Slut shaming isn't solving the problem that may or may not even be a problem. All it is doing is making girls feel inferior and boys superior. And I know this from personal experience. If you act like a "slut" (for lack of better words) you are treated like a slut, they shame you for it. The boys you hook up with, the boys who try to hook up with you, even your parents. I don't know how many times my dad has told me "it's different when you're a girl" and it makes me so mad. In respect to boys, they treat you like shit because they think they can. Every guy I have every "talked" to (which is such a bullshit term that I actually fucking hate because it's literally the same thing as dating) or liked or whatever has hooked up with someone else. Every. Single. One. I pretend like I don't care but obviously I do, anyone would. And it fucking terrifies me to finally say it. How can you be upset about losing something you never really had? These guys aren't worth my tears that I would never admit to. I guess I just thought I'd be overacting if I said how I actually felt. So I just gave up. But at some point you start to feel the way they treat you. You start to feel like you're always a second choice, a back up especially when you have so many examples of when you were. It makes me wonder how many relationships I could have made if I wasn't so afraid of getting hurt. And this is seen as your fault because that's the way you presented yourself by having sex with too many people. But that does not justify anything. It doesn't in any way make it okay for guys to treat you lesser, like you're some used napkin. I am a fucking cloth napkin at a 5 star restaurant god dammit and deserve to be treated like it.

Things will change and you will be happy

Nothing is finite. Even when you think your mind is your only friend and your skin no longer feels like home. When the flowers look dull and the wind burns your face. Even when you feel lonely when your not alone and feel bad when all you should be is happy-- When you look up at the night sky and no longer see stars. Just know that your mind will quiet down and your skin will fit again. The flowers will brighten and the wind will kiss your cheeks until you feel better. You'll find someone who will fill the loneliness in your heart and the sadness in your soul. Eventually you will see stars where ever you go-- in the people you love and the places you've always wanted to see. Things will change and you will be happy.

Thursday, May 8, 2014

Being a people

I was thinking earlier about the fact that I finally decided to completely be myself. I always said I didn't care what people think but a small part of me always did. There was still a piece of the puzzle that is me missing. (booooo) When you're young you often think you have to be like everyone else to fit in or for people to like you. But then you get a little older and realize that none of that means anything. You don't feel a need to fit in because it is a made up concept. What does that mean? Fitting in. What are we fitting in with? The crowd, the mainstream idea of what we're supposed to be like? We are humans, not candy you try to 'fit in' your pocket before you go to the movies. Then I thought of how odd it is that you have to "learn to be yourself" and to "not care." But what really got me thinking about all of this is a quote I saw on tumblr..

"To be a happy person, one has to drop all comparison. Drop all these stupid ideas of being superior and inferior. You are neither superior nor inferior. You are simply yourself! There exists no one like you, no one with whom you can be compared. Then, suddenly, you are at home."

You are simply yourself. It's literally that easy. Yet we still make it so hard for ourselves and so unnecessarily. I'm not going to say that people will always like you for who you are, because they won't. Sometimes people won't like you. And that's okay. Certain personalities don't mesh, there's nothing wrong with that. That being said don't confuse hating someone with not getting alone with someone, those are two different things. Don't hate anyone. It is very useless. Just fucking love people for who they are. Just fucking do it. That's my advise. Because it's really not hard to do. You can not get along with anyone but yourself and your dog, but still love people just for being people. Because being a people is pretty rad. 

Tuesday, May 6, 2014

Wake up

My issue with fashion media (I googled.. it's a real term) and I suppose media in general.

Growing up I love love loved fashion and clothes and putting outfits together, and I still do. In kindergarten my mom still dressed me and that was absolutely not okay because hello Jaqui I'm not a little girl anymore I can pick out my own damn clothes (or so I thought). So I would bring clothes with me to school in a little barbie backpack and change as soon as I got into the classroom. My mom and teacher eventually caught on, but hey it's a good story now.

I literally used to live, breathe, eat, fashion and everything that encompasses it. I was subscribed to every fashion magazine and website out there. And for a very long time I had my heart set on becoming a fashion designer. I even took courses at Moore College of Art and Design and have a certificate in fashion design. My mind was set on going to school in New York City and taking the fashion world by storm. But all of that eventually changed...

Long story short I took RedAlert (a television production class) my sophomore year because my friends were and older boys that I was in love with at the time were so I thought I'd give it a try. Who knew it would completely change my life. A part of my still loved fashion, but a bigger part of me loved making videos even more.

The more I made psa's and editorials, even as silly as they were, I realized I wanted to do something important with my life and thought film could potentially be a good way to do that. I started to feel like the fashion industry was shallow and insipid and would just make me another typical girl who cares about name brands and designers. I wanted to make a difference, raise awareness, I don't know of what but just something, anything. And I was scared the fashion industry might change me. I was scared of becoming a mindless drone of a girl who obeys trends as if it really matters that floral is in and stripes are out.

I actually think it is appalling the amount of importance we put on looks and who's wearing what and what not to wear. The fact that girl's attack each other because they aren't wearing the right brands or don't look "the right way." There are show's and websites and bloggers bashing celebrities because they're wearing an "ugly" dress or last year's shoes. WHO FUCKING CARES!

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Yeah I know that's completely cliche but it's true. The fact that you don't think a dress is pretty doesn't mean shit, because the person who's wearing it does! (I apologize ahead for the cursing I just feel strongly about this and feel the need to emphasize) What is the need to criticize other's based on how they look and the way they're dressed?? Nothing makes me feel shittier than when someone come's up to me and says "ugh what are you wearing?!" or "what's up with you're hair today?" anything along those lines. Why does making someone feel shitty make us feel good???

And I'm totally guilty of it. I find myself saying the same shit and immediately wanting to reverse time and take it back because I know how it makes me feel. I also find myself on website's like perez hilton or watching youtube video's of people trash talking one another. It's sick and I hate it. But a part of me also can't stop, which I guess make's me hate it even more.

On one hand I think it is important to keep up with your appearance, and make yourself look good. Emphasis on yourself because I think you should do it for you, not anyone else. But that's only to an extent. Because ya know what, some people feel fucking fantastic in hoodies and baggy clothes and don't give a shit. And I completely applaud them. We should be able to dress and look however the fuck we want to without someone questioning or criticizing it. Because I can't say it enough... WHO FUCKING CARES!!!

In my heart I know the answer is most people. Because most people care about these vapid things. If they didn't there wouldn't be all these outlets solely based on making others feel bad. In the end that's all it is. It might be funny to you that there's show's tearing apart celebrities for the way they look. Joan Rivers is a perfect example. She might be funny sometimes, mostly more offensive and over the top than anything, but it's not funny to the people she's constantly making fun of. She literally shits on peoples lives for a living and is getting paid good money for it. It's just wrong.

If we continue the way we're headed that's all the media is gonna be about, because that's what sells, it's what people want to hear. And honestly I think it's sad. It's sad that we're programmed to care and talk and think about all this stupid shit. We're so focused on Miley Cyrus's newest ridiculous outfit, that the important news is slipping through our fingers. The most noteworthy things that should be prominently talked about aren't even being covered because the media and the government are able to get away with it. They keep feeding us bullshit until we're too full to digest the real issues.

When all is said and done, it doesn't matter that Rihanna was styled horrendously for the Met Gala. What matter's is the 200 little girls who were kidnapped from their boarding school who are being sold for $12 each. What matter's is the amount of radiation currently in the pacific ocean that no one seems to want to talk about. What matter's is the fast paced destruction of our planet that so few feel the need to stop. Wake the fuck up people. Realize that we are our own worst problem.

Friday, May 2, 2014

Today is one page of a 365 page book

Today is just one page of a 365 page book. What you do with it is up to you. But what if you had physical books about your life. I'm not sure if that would be awesome or frightening... What if you had a book filled with every time you ever laughed, every happy memory you've ever had. What if you had a book filled with all the low points in your life, would you read it? You would probably see that most of that bad is completely outweighed by the good. What if you had a book filled with every time you were mean, every time you said something you shouldn't have. What if you had a book filled with every time your actions affected someone else? Would you live differently? What if you had a book filled with everyone who ever said your name, ever adored, disliked, or was jealous of you. Would you realize your importance? What would it take for you to understand that your actions completely affect everyone around you. The things you say, the things you do, all have an impact whether you know it or not. Every time you say something negative, you are feeding that to the universe. You're encouraging other people to do the same. Because the same way positivity radiates, so does negativity, probably worse. All these mind games and fake smiles, what do we get out of it in the end? Confusion? Instead of telling people how we feel we pretend we don't care. Because it's easier, because you can't feel pain if you never put yourself out there. But the pain of the unknown can be far worse. As long as we know we can eventually process and accept the outcome, good or bad. Thinking of what could have been is harder than knowing what is. What will it take for us, as humans, to live as such. To live and feel and hurt as we were meant to. That we should never be embarrassed by an emotion or feel the need to hide it. And as much as I tell myself this and want to believe it I'm still terrified of my emotions myself. It's hard for your heart and mind to coincide when they tell you different things. You can believe in something all you want but the real difficulty is acting upon it. These indoctrinated ideas in our head make it so so hard. Some thing's need to be changed collectively. We can tell ourselves something over and over but there will always be a little voice in the back of our head telling us not to, trying to protect us from getting hurt. But sometimes it's the pain that helps us grow and move forward. If you had a book filled with your whole life story, would you like who you are? If you had a book that completely described the human race as a whole, would you be ashamed? I think I might be. Ashamed of what we've become, what we value, what we do and say. So much hate and violence and war. When will there be peace? Will there ever be? Can there ever be? "Those who love peace must learn to organize as effectively as those who love war." Why is it so much easier to be mean than to be nice? What will it take for us to love one another? Today is just one page in a 365 page book. What you do is up to you. You have the choice to make a difference, to be the change. Be the change.